After my cousin met with my brother she felt sure that he was OKAY 😀 She said he looks great, and he sounded great. He has a lot of anger towards our father and and with him stressing him out, no wonder he lost a lot of weight, not to mention his job, he was a waiter at a restaurant and the kitchen was downstairs and the dining room was up..so going up and down the stairs for a whole shift 5 days a week will do it…maybe I should become a waitress to get my last 15lbs off…lol. So my cousin came to the conclusion that he is okay, that is all I can go on these days. After hearing what the conversation had been about I can totally understand why my brother is so mad at dad.
Just wanted to let you all know everything was okay.
I am not sure how to approach this situation. As most of you know my ex was in town for the weekend that just passed and we had a very cordial/friendly visit. All was well or so I thought. As I was checking my facebook yesterday I noticed his cousin was online and we were chatting. She started to talk to me about my ex and not realizing she was sharing some new information…she notified me that he recently got a DUI and how he is headed down the same path as his father…(his father has had so many DUI’s that he got his license taken away and still lives at home with his parents at the age of 53) so what do I do with that…besides feel sad for him. I/We thought the DUI just happened since he got back to NY but come to realize that this whole thing happened 2 weeks prior…during which time my daughter was in NY with him. I have spoken with him and his mother since this whole ordeal happened and neither one of them said anything to me about it…
I can totally understand protecting your child and not wanting to shed a bad light on an already tough situation but give me a damn break…I am not just a bitter ex, I am the mother of his two children…one of which was in NY while all of this went down. I think I deserve to know what the hell is going on. Don’t you? I don’t need to know every waking detail of his life but something as important as that I think should be told to me.
While he was here I was talking to him about life and everything and how he needs to be a better provider for his kids and helping him with ideas on how to get there…I told him that I think he needs to go into the military. He is not doing anything good with his life in NY and it is scary to me because his father was/is the same way he is being and he hates his father… I just don’t understand how he can do the same BS his father did and not think the girls will look at him the same way he looks at his father. I just don’t want it to be too late for him to have a good relationship with the girls…and I don’t know how many times I need to emphasize how much a little girl needs her daddy…Shit I am almost 30 and I need my daddy still sometimes.
What do I do? I can’t force him to do anything but something has to happen. He is never in the house when I call, he is always out playing basketball or something…never do I call and someone tells me he is at work. There is a problem a big problem here. Do I threaten to take the kids away from him permanently until he gets his life together???