To Date or Not To Date…That Is the Question

So advice is needed here…It has been so long since I have been on the real dating scene, is it appropriate to date a friend of an ex?  I see it all the time in Hollywood, but is it okay to do in reality, in our real life?  I was watching The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and noticed that one of the wives married a friend of her ex-husbands and they are all still friends.  Does that happen in real life or only in cities like that?

A friend of my ex asked me out, a part of me wants to say yes because I am pretty sure we would have a good time but the other part of me thinks its crazy.  I am battling the idea because I feel like I don’t know if I would give it a serious chance because of his “friendship” with my ex.  When he came by the house a few weeks ago he told me he hadn’t talked to the ex in a few months (why the ” are necessary)…so friendship is used loosely here.  I don’t know about you, but I speak to my friends more often than that…even if only via email or text. 

So again I ask, is this appropriate?


Did He Come Back?

I can’t believe it’s been this long since I have been on here…I guess I had reverted back to paper and pen at some point…

So, where I left off was trying to figure out if he was the one that got away…not sure I can classify that still today.  It has been almost a year since I have been here, he and I still talk all the time, which has been very effective in establishing a friendship and even more effective in helping us realize what we wanted out of a relationship.  We have spent some good time together since, even though the distance is still a major factor, we have established some sort of relationship.  Neither one of us are seeing anyone else (STILL), we have come to agree that we want to be together but the distance is the main factor keeping us from labeling us a couple.  We have been trying to see each other every few months and have been successful for the last 7 or 8 months…next visit is scheduled for the first weekend in March.

This man has made me feel things I haven’t thought possible…not only has he removed my writers block (creatively speaking) he has awaken things in me that I thought died years ago.  I have never trusted a man so implicitly before in my life, not even my daughters father got that much from me, everything feels so right with him.  I feel like everything happens so naturally between us, there is no thought about anything at all.  He makes me feel like I am in High School all over again, giggly and all smiles.  I love that, I enjoy being happy and he does that for me.  It’s just unfortunate that we are so far away from each other (physically), it actually makes it better for now.  It allows us to get to know each other better, it gives us time to miss each other and appreciate when we do see each other.  It also allows us to be friends more than anything, which is the best foundation for a relationship. We can talk to each other about any and everything without resolve.  We are completely honest with each other which is so hard to believe.

His latest visit was for 10 days or so…we had a chance to date.  It was nice, we did a couple of double dates and we did a lot of one on one dating, it was nice.  We got to hang out like normal people do when they are dating…and he biggest feat…he met the girls and they loved each other instantly and my girls are not easy to like anyone…that is probably the best part of the trip.



Happy New Year!!!

It’s a new year…time for a new outlook on life. I guess that is supposed to be how we think about a new year coming in. I think we should always have the best outlook on life.  This year I am going to make better than the last, that includes eliminating all things that are not good for me…including people.

2011 I lost all the weight I wanted to – 2012 I am going to tone it all up

2011 I got rid of unnecessary baggage – 2012 I am mentally eliminating baggage

2011 I worked on my physical – 2012 I am working on my mental/emotional

I could probably go on and on all day…but 2012 is going to be a great year.


Happy New Year All!!!!

Online Dating

Ok, so I bit the bullet and signed up for a dating website.  Never did I think I would but it is not that bad.  Honestly it is about all I have time for right now anyway.  So I signed up yesterday and already have a few people messaging me…which is cool.  I guess this is a great way to weed out the ones I would not deal with anyway instead of wasting time physically dating and being upset when they are not what you expected. 

Gift for the Ungiftable

There is always someone in the family who I can’t figure out what to get them for Christmas.  I am almost done with all of the shopping for the girls…one more online experience to go.  But what to get for this person has been bothering me for weeks…why?  Because she is the most unappreciative person, she seems to always have an issue with the gifts people give her and mind you she is an adult, not a spoiled little child.  Last year she was upset about a gift she got and I thought it was a cute gift, but the funny thing is she isn’t quiet about not liking the gifts.  She is very vocal about it, which drives me crazy…what happened to saying thank you and walking away?  The other issue I am having with giving this gift this year is that she still owes me a significant amount of money, so what do I do? 

I am getting her something, I just don’t know what she wants or likes at the moment so hmmm…

I Went Back

I’m back.  I went to NY for the weekend to surprise my bff.  Her husband was throwing her a 30th birthday party and I went up. It was great, I had a good time and got to spend time wit my two best friends.  Which is a task since we all live in different cities, me being the furthest away.  She was totally surprised and it was an amazing night. Very proud of her hubby 🙂  All night I kept hearing OMG you look so good, you look great, etc.  All I kept thinking to myself (as I said “thank you”) was damn was I really looking bad. 

Needless to say 40lbs down really makes a difference, plus the 6″ heels adding length to my little frame.  I tell you what though, it felt good. 

Saw my ex for 10 minutes…lol and that was more than enough.  He just irritates my damn nerves, so I made sure I saw him first before the party so I could have a good time for the rest of my 48 hour trip. 

And that I did 🙂

I Can See…

My birthday present this year for the big 30 was…drum roll please…LASIK.  I got it done the Saturday after my birthday and the next day I was totally fine.  After 2 checkups (already) my vision is better than 20/20 with both eyes open 🙂 That is like the best news I have had in a long time.  They say I should be completely healed up in 2-3 months, which is great because I will be great before Christmas.  It just feels so weird to not have glasses on, I do things and catch myself trying to push my glasses back up on my face. LOL they are not there anymore 🙂  I think the best part about all of that is that I can wake up in the mornings on Saturday and watch TV without reaching for the damn glasses on the night table…oh and the fact that you can actually see my eyes.  Already so many people have asked me if I wear contacts now because no body really knew what color my eyes were with those stupid glasses in front of them…It’s GREAT